Women Managing Their Anger, Pain And Fear In The Face Of Male Resistance

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If war is not the answer what is?

If North Korea will not come to the table, what do we do?

If Germans look the other way when Jews are being exterminated what do we do?

Or as Bob Dylan wrote --

“… how many times can a man turn his headAnd pretend that he just doesn't see? 

The answer, my friend, is blowin' in the windThe answer is blowin' in the wind.”

So, if war is not the answer – man or woman -- my message to you out there is this --

Men re #Metoo:  -- If you are not now being AN ACTIVE PART OF THE SOLUTION, YOU ARE A  PART OF THE PROBLEM!

Are you -- men --  up for taking action?

Step One: Decide to find ways that suit you, today, to lean in to the women in your life re #Metoo

Step Two: Practice, each and every day, learning how to dialogue about #Metoo, not debate!

Step Three:  Be your best warrior self in a compassionate way. Be a winner warrior, not a loser! (See below for the Compassionate Warrior Way.)

Women re #Metoo: War is not the answer!!!!!

However "fierceness" is not enough” and neither is retreat or withdrawal.

So do yourselves a favor and join up with New Horizons Beyond Gender Tyranny movement! Learn how to stand up for yourself the Compassionate Warrior Way! (See below.)

See below for the Compassionate Warrior Way.

Step One: Listen to my Anastasia The Storyteller Radio Show, regularly for information, insights, inspiration, empowerment and skill development.

Last week’s show, now on podcast –

Women Managing Their Anger, Pain (And Fear) 

In The Face Of Male Resistance

Step Two: Do  my "Are You A Compassionate Warrior" inventory.

Step Three:  Learn how to turn any and every indicator of Dark Side Warrior functioning  -- in yourself -- into its Compassionate Warrior counterpart. (Scroll down below introductory text for Compassionate Warrior inventory).

My Exploring Your Dark Side Warrior: The Adventure of A Lifetime will provide you with vast resources to get you started on this.  Educate your mind on your own Dark Side Warrior and learn how to transform it into a Compassionate Warrior.

I describe a Compassionate Warrior this way:  

The Compassionate Warrior, draws on humanity’s greatest wisdom, learned by: 

1. Transcending primitive impulses to fight or flee (i.e. the stress/survival reaction); 

2. Using underlying psychological survival issues that have fueled destructive warrior activities as the impetus to develop wisdom that enhances life; and 

3. Honoring the Essence within the self and in all other living things. This way of being involves the developing of mastery in the mysterious art of synergizing the various human energy systems: intellect, emotions, the body and spirit. 

The Compassionate Warrior's ways are extraordinary, exemplified by an open-heart and faith in oneself and/or the Divine. The attributes of items 1 - 7 are among its typical manifestations.

Here is another inventory that will help you distinguish between the Dark Side Warrior and the Compassionate Warrior. Read it today!

The Compassionate Warrior is dedicated to being a winner!

Here is the way she/he achieves that!

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Contact: Goddess-zilla, a.k.a. Anastasia at: 
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Anastasia Comments On "No Not Me," The #Metoo Movement And The Issue of Male Resistance

Anastasia (that's me) had quite an experience doing her radio show yesterday, titled “No Not Me!” The #Metoo  Movement And The Issue Of Male Resistance.” !


Today I am commenting on that show with some of the most profound and comprehensive  observations I have been able to make in a long time, opening the door to a whole new adventure for our listeners and readers; New Horizons and Anastasia's "Adventure Of A Lifetime."

That is if you are up for the challenge and the adventure that goes with it!

Read my critically important comments, for anyone who wants to move Beyond Gender Tyranny, on that program here!

And listen to the podcast of the radio show to see if you can sniff out the adventure afoot!

Moving Beyond Gender Tyranny: How Are We Going To Make That Happen?

As I posted in my description for tomorrow’s Anastasia The Storyteller Radio show broadcast titled “No Not Me!” The #Metoo Movement And The Issue Of Male Resistance,” we, at New Horizons, think the issue of male resistance to the basic principles of the #Metoo movement is of critical importance to explore, understand and work with, productively.

So we are believing that we must begin to seriously and systematically explore present tensions between men and women as they are, currently, in the #Metoo era. 

And begin figuring out how we are going to move through these in order to reach that happy place for which we all yearn, hopefully sometime in the not too distant future.

However, right now it looks as if it might take an earthquake to bring that about!

Nonetheless, I know that my relationships with the men in my life are far too important to want to foster a lot of debating about the right-wrong sides of gender issues, as they are now being viewed in today’s world. I know that when I sit down for a conversation with the important men in my life, I want something of a far greater substance than debate, if we are going to discuss, at all, what’s happening now in this era of #Metoo.

Certainly you can’t escape the subject if you are a conscious individual.

I also know, as I wrote in my recent blog titled "A Personal Message From Anastasia: On How We Are Going To Move Ourselves Through The #MeToo Era," I don’t want to be considered an enemy of men because I am a woman. And, I don’t want them to act as if I am the enemy because of that.

(I also discussed this deeply held perspective of mine, at length, in my last radio show titled "How We Are Going To Move Ourselves Through The #MeToo Era." You will find the strongest part of my message toward the end of the show.)

So what next? Where do we go from here with all the gender-related controversy stirred up and in our faces, day-in and day-out presently? 

Beyond Gender Tyranny, as a movement, designed by the New Horizons Small “Zones Of Peace” Project, is about there being a two-way street of give and take; compassion and understanding back and forth between men and women. So we need to watch out for heatedness and stay conscious of our objectives in our conversations.

Not an easy thing to do these days.

As with most women, for starters, I have a lot I need to get off my chest, formerly unspoken. No longer can I hold back, nor am I willing to, even if I could contain what I have to say, any longer. Which I cannot do, without further harm to myself, added to what I have already been accumulating over years.

That’s the warrior side of me. I also want to be understood and for there to be a show of compassion for the harm and pain I have experienced over the years from male disrespect.

Liberation is that intense!!

I have not had any significant sexual abuse or harassment victimization in the workplace; very little in my personal life. But there has been some. And for these I, now, need the warrior woman part of me to help keep me on track to get my stories out, when and where appropriate, and heal myself, along with the tens of thousands, maybe millions, of other women doing similarly.

Where there have been episodes of this, I am presently writing about them on my Anastasia The Storyteller blog site, as I push my way through long held fears, regarding disclosure and the personal limitations I have developed in the process, especially when I, also, come up against the resistance, now, of people who do not seem eager to hear me, based on their own agendas.

You can read a collection of my articles on this issue here.

While the warrior side of women has been suppressed for eons and women oppressed along with it, we women need that warrior side of ourselves, up and out! 

We need it for many things; the creative side of ourselves, the passionate, the empowered, sometimes the angry (but not as a lifestyle), the assertive, sometimes aggressive, the leadership etc. etc. – whatever other warrior parts of a person there are that I may have forgotten.

Most men have the warrior side of themselves in a more ready abundance than do females. 
This is about male biology more than anything. The warrior side is a significant part of a man’s inherent nature. And, we women need to consider, carefully, if we truly want them to "give themselves up to be loved by us."

Too often, unfortunately, this male warrior side has come out in ways, direct and indirect, that have harmed women. That needs to change! And as quickly as possible!

What we don’t need, however, is for the female warrior and the male warrior to be at war!

War is not the answer!  So we need to find peaceful ways to make room for the warrior in both men and women. 

Not suppress it! 

Not judge it as bad, dirty, wrong or dangerous (unless when it is). 

I've said enough on this subject for now. 

Your next step -- be sure to tune into my upcoming shows where I will be taking up the subject of the warrior woman and warrior man, meeting head to head, with an eye for that to be heart to heart!

Anastasia The Storyteller Radio

"No Not Me!" The #Metoo Movement And The Issue Of Male Resistance 

Saturday, March 31 -- 11:30 a.m

Women Managing Their Anger and Pain In The Face Of Male Resistance
Sunday, April 8 -- 11:30 a.m.

A Personal Message From Anastasia: On How We Are Going To Move Ourselves Through The #MeToo Era

Coming next -- 

No Not Me -- And -- The Epidemic Of Male Resistance 
Anastasia The Storyteller Radio -- Saturday, March 24

The Role Of Woman, Facing Their Anger and Pain In The Face Of Male Resistance --  Anastasia The Storyteller Radio -- Saturday, March 31

A personal note to male readers, from Anastasia 

Anastasia Rosen-Jones
Executive Director and Founder
New Horizons Support Network

Men, this #Metoo stuff is challenging now – and – it's going to get increasingly heavy and hard before it gets better, if I know my stuff. 

But please don’t shy away from me on this one, as If I’m your enemy here!

I am not in any enemy camp! 

If you think I am, you best take my survivor/addict inventory, right here and now, and see where you fall on seeing others as enemies!

Also, check out my Winner and Losers Paradigm article to see where you fall there.

I have been – and – will continue doing all kinds of things to bolster your various unique male positions, as our study is now informing me of them, with compassion and respect!

So, please hear what I might offer, as a bridge builder. 

I am committed to that path, no matter what. That is what is behind my new #Metoo series of Anastasia The Storyteller Radio Shows.

And, please remember, I’m a trained therapist, though now retired, and have been helping men – and – women heal relationship divides, professionally for more than forty years!

Additionally, I’ve had my own male sexual aggression problems. 

Read this piece. You will see that while I do have a pending ethics complaint against a former mentor, I, also, most importantly, went so far in healing another sexual abuse situation that I married the man!

Be sure to listen to my new Anastasia The Storyteller Radio Show series on this era of #Metoo, as I begin to tell this personal story of mine, bit by bit, as I feel comfortable.

I’ll tell you one piece of it, here – the dear man I ended up marrying went the distance to hear my anger and my pain, to take responsibility for what he did and make amends for it. I met him halfway. 

How could I not forgive him and rekindle my love that has, now, lasted thirty-two years!

After all he was in denial, at the time that he hurt me, and didn’t realize what he was doing. 

Once he understood what he had acted out, it was a mess for awhile. But here we are. Still intact, in our way, decades later!

I want that happy outcome for you too!

So please listen and learn while we women, including me, tell and tremble! 

And, please don’t dismiss what I have to offer, professionally and personally, because I am the “other.”

Listen And Learn, Tell And Tremble: Two Sides Of A Coin

Hear Anastasia on today’s Anastasia The Storyteller Radio on the topic of “Listen And Learn, Tell And Tremble: Two Sides Of A Coin,” as she guides listeners on the next steps of the Beyond Gender Tyranny adventure -- out of the man-woman traps of #Metoo into a brighter time.

After laying the groundwork for a new #Metoo era series on Anastasia The Storyteller Radio, built on our present need to overcome polarization, especially in gender relations, how do men and women truly get beyond defensiveness and divisiveness to really talk and listen to one another? 

Anastasia explores this topic as it evolves out of her two most recent shows --

• Anastasia Introduces The "new" Specially Designed #Metoo Era Anastasia The Storyteller and 
• Story Listening, By Males, Takes Precedence In The #MeToo Era.

Listen And Learn, Tell And Tremble: Two Sides Of A Coin

On Anastasia The Storyteller Radio

Today – Saturday, March 17, 2018

Beyond Gender Tyranny Study of Male Attittudes, Officially, March 15!

New Horizons Survey Of Male Perspectives and Personal “Needs” To End Gender Tyranny

Men, We Want Your Stories! 

If you are a male between the ages of eighteen and eighty and support #Metoo as a cultural change movement, we would like to interview you for our study.

The New Horizons Small “Zones of Peace” Beyond Gender Tyranny project is now ready to begin collecting the stories of men who want to be change agents in male-female relationships. 

Please let us know your views on this movement and what you need to be a game changer with the women in your life, at this crucial time. 

From this information, we will be designing programs to meet your needs  -- and the women you care about.

Begins, Thursday, March 15!

To arrange for your personal interview, contact Anastasia Rosen-Jones, 

Cell: 240.409.5347, Email: mountainwomanrj@aol.com

Getting Involved: Men Supporting #MeToo As A Cultural Change Movement

Males Supporting #Metoo As A Cultural Change Movement

Your participation is as near as your phone!

To get involved: 

1.Email Anastasia who will be, personally, conducting all interviews, at least at this initial stage. Include --

• Your contact information -- and -- 
• Your brief statement of intent.

2. Let Anastasia know of your interest in participating in this study.

Write a brief statement (no longer than one page) about your motivation for participating, your hopes and dreams, what you would like to see your participation accomplish for you, personally, and what you would like to see it bring about, in terms of the broader #MeToo Movement and our own New Horizons Beyond Gender Tyranny project;

3. Send your contact information to Anastasia at the following email address, using the template posted below: MountainWomanRJ@aol.com

4. Include your best days and times of availability for contact.

5. Indicate whether or not you would like to do a guest interview on Anastasia The Storyteller Radio.

Note: Due to the volume of interviews anticipate, it may take as long as three weeks to arrange your telephone interview.

In preparation for the interview --

• Be prepared for a one hour interview;
• Be sure you are in a quiet, private place;

You must be eighteen years old or over to participate in this study.

Donations are encouraged. Please support our efforts.

Online donation arrangements are now being made. 

We will let you know how to proceed, as soon as they are complete. 

Men Supporting #MeToo As A Cultural Change Movement:

The Study

• Study sponsored by the New Horizons Support Network, Inc. Small "Zones Of Peace" Project.
• Conducted by M. Anastasia Rosen-Jones, email: mountainwomanrj@aol.com. 

Interviews and names of all interviewees are kept confidential and become the joint and exclusive property of the New Horizons Support Network, Inc. and Ms. Rosen-Jones.

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