Thursday, February 16, 2017

Beyond Polarization: What Does It Take?

Does it matter to you that we are a nation of polarized people?

It sure does me! 

In fact, not only does Donald Trump and his divisiveness upset and scare me, what is now going on with people who voted different ways from one another breaks my heart.

I grew up being kept separate from other kids because I had a bigoted mother who would not allow me to play with kids who were different than me in terms of religious beliefs. 

And we were the minority! 

Isn’t that strange?

The only thing good that came of that was that it showed me how awful it is to be separated from neighbors!

I hate being separated from others. This is the main reason the efforts of the New Horizons Small ‘Zones of Peace” Project are what they are today; a full blown set of programs and projects to help all varieties of people come together.

This is now my life’s work. And, I won’t ever stop doing my part as long as I live!

I hope and pray you want all people to be united as much as I do – and – will therefore join me in the steep climb we now have in front of us to reach the destination of “awe.”

We can feel that awe when we come together in times of tragedy such as 9/11. We can feel that awe at a Super Bowl game, the Fourth of July, at Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years.

Why not each and every day of the year?

But what does it take to go beyond polarization?

Here are two essential beginning strategies --

Leaning In
Dialogue versus debate

If your heart is aching like mine these days over the state of our nation. And, you want something to do about it, keep following my blogs, on all three sites (here, Anastasia The Storyteller and Exploring Your Dark Side: The Adventure Of A Lifetime)  and the programs and projects New Horizons is offering.

I will be writing posts from here forth that will help you, your family, friends, neighbors and community tackle this challenge, polarization, and move beyond it. And New Horizons wonderful volunteer team, growing day-by-day, will be joining me through our many outreach and training programs and projects.

As a reminder, here are details about our next event ---



More to come.

Saturday, February 11, 2017

Immigration To Be Next Coffee House Conversations Topic

OMG!

Are we in Nazi Germany, circa 1940?

But then again, I don’t want people in my country who are here illegally or are criminals!

My heart is lurching. There are no easy answers!

And, I am after all is said and done, only one person, with meager resources to contribute to such a HUGE, way-beyond-my-capacities issue. 

What can I do to help this nightmare situation?

What to do? What to do?

Next step: I called Sue!

We agreed with the lesson we learned from our dear Pastor George Earle, Jr. when we successfully aided Centennial United Methodist Church in keeping its doors open and beginning to build a bright new future –

Just keep talking! 

If you do that with enough people who share common concerns, solutions will emerge!

Now I am cleared to take our next Coffee House Conversation series where it needs to go. 

We did it at Centennial, help to build a bright, new future when great loss was at hand. Let's do it again now when humane treatment for all is at stake!

Here it is!! A day to be filled with "dialogue rather than debate" and the search for common ground --


“Learning How To Discuss Immigration 
(And Other Social/Political Issues) With Empathy For All Views”

A New Horizons Coffee House Conversation



Thursday, February 9, 2017

Overcoming The Polarization of …. Everything In Our Society and Politics: The Seminar/Workshop

Want to learn how to overcome the polarization of …. everything in our society and politics?

This is the seminar/workshop/training program for you!

Coming soon –on March 4!
  • Main topic: "Learning How To Discuss Immigration (And Other Social/Political Issues) With Empathy For All Views"
  • Experienced facilitators are needed, contact Anastasia, details below.
We are polarized! No doubt about it!

But Polarization does not need to be a way of life! 

Meaningful conversation (and mutual support) can be your style.


That’s the “Zones of Peace” way, the exceptional way, the life as art way.

Overcoming The Polarization of Politics

This event will–
  • Help you begin to develop conversation skills to be a community bridge-builder (also with your family, friends and work associates);
  • Begin to teach you "the art of" how to do your civic duty by speaking truth to power in ways that have impact and a high success rate for change;
  • Begin to teach you the art, the heart and the magic of leaning in rather than polarizing, withdrawing or any other form of separating;
  • Provide you with a non-partisan, supportive environment within which to discuss and sort out any stress our current social and political climate may be causing you;
Saturday, March 4, 2017 
2:00 to 4:00 p.m.

Frederick Friends Meeting House
723 N. Market Street

Potluck (or dinner out together) follows program. 
Bring a dish to share and/or check ahead to find out our plan.

A small “zone of peace” can be anywhere.

Why not join us in building a “zone of peace” in Frederick’s backyard and beyond? 
(Outside area guests also welcome.)

Be sure to read our many articles on the themes suggested here.

Reserve early, space is limited!
(Donations are encouraged.)

For Details and Reservations, Contact: Anastasia Rosen-Jones
Email: HarpersFerryNH@aol.com Cell: 240.409.5347



Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Overcoming The Polarization Of .... House Parties!

Overcoming The Polarization of Politics House Parties (Or Whatever Else Separates You)! Now specially designed for your own private house party!

Come on, folks! Get on board before we are all sold out!

A Coffee House Conversation Event
Sponsored by the New Horizons’ Small “Zones of Peace” Project –

Our motto:

“We do best to begin by carving out territories or zones of peace in our personal relations where violence and deceit won’t be used.” -Mahatma Gandhi

Our method:

We bring our motto and our methodology, long proven to be effective, into the privacy of your home. There we help you begin to build a small “zone of peace” with your family, friends, neighbors, small group affiliates and anyone else you care to include. Read about our methodology.


We are polarized! No doubt about it! 


Meet Anastasia,
your guide to the adventure
Characteristics of cultural polarization include:

  • Emotional barriers
  • Defensiveness, anger, blame
  • Withdrawal, avoidance, collusion
  • Communication Breakdown
  • Seeing the “other” as an enemy
Examples of polarization:

  • Interfaith disparity
  • Racial separation and hostilities
  • Community differences
  • Bipartisan political divisions
Polarization does not need to be a way of life!

Conversation can be your style.

That’s the “Zones of Peace” way, the exceptional way, the life as art way.

Polarization, conflict and violence can become obsolete.
                 
New Horizons will show you how!


Get active now!

Call or write today!

Contact:
Anastasia Rosen-Jones
Executive Director, New Horizons Support Network, Inc.
Cell: 240.409.5347, 
Email: SuperSleuthDSW@aol.com

Sunday, January 29, 2017

It Is Your Civic Duty To Stop The Flagrant Disregard In Our Country For Truth NOW!!

It is your civic duty to stop the flagrant disregard for truth, especially if you are an American NOW!

As a Certified Transactional Analyst with more than forty years experience, focusing on truth telling as an essential pathway to whatever ails, personally, and interpersonally; relationship-wise and community wide, I, personally, am taking up the effort (along with my team of volunteers) to assist you in doing this.

It is essential at this time in America that people develop increasing clarity and skill at speaking truth to power in useful social justice ways.  And learn to effectively navigate areas of denial and discounting. I will be discussing this topic over time from here forth.

‘Here is my introduction!
More is to come. So keep alert to my postings at: Anastasia The Storyteller, Exploring Your Dark Side: The Adventure of A Lifetime and the New Horizons Small “Zones of Peace” Project.
Also see:
Let’s start here with three main concepts.
The three concepts are:
  • Discounting
  • Denial
  • Lying
For starters, let us note the definitions of each: discounting, denial and lying.
The term discount is a term derived from the literature of Transactional Analysis(TA). The term is generally meant to be the act of minimizing or ignoring aspects of reality related to an individual, a situation or the solving of a problem.Discounting can be either conscious or unconscious.
In TA literature, discounting, is discussed as a rather intricate phenomenon associated with passivity. The subject is well worth investigating, learning to understand and apply. New Horizons has designed its most sophisticated program, the Truth or Dare Game, to teach people how discounting is affecting their lives, how to understand its destructive effects and how to reverse them.
Conscious discounting: An example of conscious or purposeful discounting of another person is choosing to tune out the distracting sounds of children at play in order to keep one’s attention focused on a task.
Unconscious discounting: An example of unconscious discounting occurred in a couple I was coaching when the husband of the couple kept ignoring the emotions his wife was expressing of fear over purchases he had made that went beyond the couple’s budget.
Denial, on the other hand, is less an ignoring and more of an internalized defense against unpleasant or uncomfortable truths or reality.
Although discounting and denial can appear to operate similarly, I have found it to be valuable to distinguish between the two in treatment scenarios. This tack has proven itself to be important in attempting to figure out strategies for managing interactions with people who are using either discounting or denial interactively with me, or others I am mentoring/coaching.
Both functions: discounting and denial, are faulty modes of processing reality.
Lying: is a deliberate withholding of information in order to exact power and/or control of others.
Many disruptive behaviors may include all three of these out-of-sync-with-reality internal functions. For example a person who is bullying is likely to be ignoring or minimizing (discounting) the emotions and needs of others. He or she might also not be able to have a healthy grasp (denial) of the consequences of this behavior for him or herself or the victim being bullied.
Lying might also play a role in this kind of upset as the need for power and control in situations of bullying is a major factor.
Where does Donald Trump’s deceitful behavior lie between these three dysfunctional modes of dealing with truth and reality?
It is hard to know for sure what would account for Trump’s repeated deceit without having his willing agreement to assess his dysfunction. My own professional analysis from afar is that Donald Trump appears to me to be acting as if he is a narcissistic sociopath. 
The narcissism accounts for his seeming inability to do other than pay attention to himself as the center of his world. That would account also for his inability to do other than discount (i.e. minimize or ignore) the thoughts, feelings, viewpoints and so forth of others.   Obviously, Trump is over-focused on himself and under-focused on others.
The sociopathy might account for his being in denial (i.e. seemingly having little or no compassion or concern) for others with a significant lack of empathy. Sociopaths have extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior and a lack of conscience. This could account for Trump’s racism, sexism and radically disruptive notions about how to “make America great again.”
Of, course, Trump lies all over the place; his need for power and control of others is off the charts!
In lieu of their being any certainty regarding Trump’s internal psychological dysfunctioning, it is essential that our American constituency develop increased skillfulness in assessing their own personal reality and truth telling behaviors. And, find ways to cope with our now being subjected to leadership that is functioning outside the bounds of truth and reality!
Please join our movement to “Make America Greater” by
“Making America Honest”
For Information on New Horizons’ Truth or Dare training and other Small “Zones of Peace” programs —
Contact: Anastasia Rosen-Jones, Executive Director 
New Horizons Support Network, Inc.
Cell: 240.409.5347, Email: SuperSleuthDSW@aol.com


Thursday, January 26, 2017

New Horizons’ Making Violence Obsolete Movement (MVO): A What-To-Do-After-The-March Opportunity

(After the election, after the inauguration, etc. etc.)

What to do? What to do?

The polarization of our society and politics, with Donald Trump as our king pin, looks pretty dire. And, it seems this is the state of affairs we are destined to be stuck with for some time into the future.

What to do? What to do?

For the past decade, beginning with New Horizons facilitating the healing of a local Jewish/Muslim controversy (2006), we have been front runners at helping communities to overcome polarization. And, instead build bridges of enhanced unity.

Obviously, we have a long road ahead if we aspire to even make a dent in our present state of society and politics. Yet growing numbers of people, throughout our country as well as around the world, as the Women’s March demonstrated on Saturday, are becoming increasingly vocal about the need for unity, as opposed to divisiveness, as it stands now.

At New Horizons, we are striving for a shared “awe” as we have actually been doing for more than forty years!

We know that our goal – “awe” – is achievable! But it takes determination, disciplined efforts by many individuals, groups and small communities to even get the undertaking off the ground, moving in the proper direction --- and sustained

So we are asking you  –

Is your family, friendship circle, work place, group, organization or congregation polarized?

Is polarization impacting on your daily life?

If it is New Horizons is here to help you move through and beyond this! 

We know how and we want to assist you!

Characteristics of cultural polarization 
  • Emotional barriers
  • Defensiveness, anger, blame
  • Withdrawal, avoidance, collusion
  • Communication Breakdown
  • Seeing the “other” as an enemy
If these indicators of polarization are interfering with the quality of your life today, take a cue from us and learn to skillfully lean in where there is separation and do your best – now – to find common ground with anyone and everyone you can.

Your endeavors in this direction will be well worth the challenge!

Not sure how to do it?

New Horizons’ Bus Ride Story Adventure* is one of the many vehicles we can offer you. Each and every one of them can provide the kinds of support and skill development opportunities that can empower you to successfully involve yourself in being an effective social and political change agent. 

(*Our Bus Ride Story Adventure is only one of the many processes that our Making Violence Obsolete Movement, our Counterculture Community Development Experiment, our Coffee House Conversations programs and our specially designed Cultural Mediation Coaching and Consulting offer to assist your individual and collective objectives.)

Find out how we have successfully facilitated profound community unity and impacted the personal lives of thousands of others through our various programs and activities.


Ask Anastasia
to be your guide.
But, of course, New Horizons is only one of many wonderful grassroots opportunities surfacing now as social and political action endeavors. However, we can, not only guide and train your activities with us, but you can consider us as one of your basic resources for empowering your involvement with others as you make peace and social justice your number one priority at this sensitive time.

Both group and private coaching and consulting are also available.

Contact: Anastasia Rosen-Jones
Executive Director 
New Horizons Support Network, Inc.
Cell: 240.409.5347, Email: SuperSleuthDSW@aol.com